Resist your tendency to analyze every detail of what’s happened in your relationship. Who said what? Why did they say it? This isn’t productive. Lots of people think that it’s only by understanding the past that we get beyond it.
But what you focus on is what grows in your mind. So, think about what’s worked well previously, what you like about the person, and what you want from the relationship. Take a solution-focused approach, not a diagnostic one.