Forgiveness requires feeling willing to forgive. Sometimes you won’t, because the hurt went too deep, or because the person was too abusive, or expressed no regret. Do not attempt to forgive someone before you have identified, fully felt, expressed, and released your anger and pain.
It suites the mind a great deal and helps one refocus.
If you decide you are willing to forgive, find a good place and time to be alone with your thoughts. Then, try following these four steps to forgive even when it feels impossible:
- Forgiveness allows us to take responsibility for our own happiness.
Angel Chernoff believes that most of what we attract into our lives is a mere reflection of what is inside of us. Our thoughts and actions create our exterior world. “The Law of Attraction teaches us that ‘like attracts like’, and we will never experience a happy ending at the end of an unhappy journey. By holding onto anger and resentment (even in our subconscious mind), we are pre-paving our journey to be filled with anger and resentment. The way we feel and the emotions we hold are what we use to create all of our future experiences”.
- Forgiveness allows us to see everyone in our lives as a teacher.